There are many people who do not want to be at a funeral of their loved one because they are afraid to face his grieving family members and relatives. They want to show their love and affection for the departed and provide their help but are unable to do so. The reason is the fear of what to say at their visit. Many people face this sort of circumstances and they are unable to provide their help even if it is needed by the family of deceased. They have a fear of saying something wrong to them accidentally and when they don’t pay a visit to the funeral and don’t provide their assistance to the grieving family, they feel really bad for a long period of time or may be forever. To overcome this problem, there are some special instructions to be kept in mind.
Many a times we wish to help the family to do the arrangement and preparations in a better way. You should keep telling the family members that nobody can stay in this world forever and everyone has to depart. At the very time of your loved ones death, you must try to make the family feel good by telling them that their loved one may be in a better condition and place now and tell them you will always be there if they need help. The family members of may don’t show any reaction when you are saying this all to them but they will automatically start to think about and believe in what you have said to them earlier.
The selection of the right words to say at the time of your visit can be difficult to find. It may be easy for you to reduce the sadness and grief of a family member you already know but it will be a hardship for you to do so with a person you are not familiar with before. When you help the members of the family and the relatives upon your visit to them, they will automatically start to feel good and will be thankful to you for your help.
Before conveying your condolence message to the family, you must be careful about the selection of the words. Of course your words can not take away the pain and sorrow, but they will surely lower the sadness and grief of them. Many a people hesitate to say the same sympathy message again and again because they think it is awkward. You don’t actually have to use a different message every time, but keep the factor of timing in mind and also think about how the grieved family members are feeling right now. When it comes to saying a goodbye to the loved one, the family members feel emotionally broken and it is the time when they need you the most during the whole ceremony.
If you are in a hurry and want to meet the family members just before going for an important meeting, make sure you reach to them before time. After showing your affection and condolence, be apologized for the hurry and tell them to call you if they need any sort of help from you. The family will feel really good to see that you took a break from your busy routine to show your sympathy for their loved one. It is recommended to be at the ceremony before time because if you reach after the time, the family members will be busy in other matters and you may miss your chance of showing you sympathy and condolence to them.
